Core Pattern: Vacillator+Vacillator Audio (CD)


Your Core Pattern is your enemy. This download provides an in-depth look at Vacillator + Vacillator Core Pattern, including a diagram of the pattern and the interventions needed to exit this destructive dance.

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Your core pattern is the enemy not your spouse.   This one hour CD provides an in-depth look at Vacillator–Vacillator  core pattern. It includes a downloadable PDF, which includes a circular diagram of this Core Pattern, explanations of the interactions and all applicable interventions to exit this reactive, destructive dance.

Vacillators are sensitive and easily triggered by any hint of rejection or abandonment. Each can feel easily overlooked, misunderstood or unloved. Over time, the passionate connection and intense good feelings of the early relationship are disturbed by anger, hurt and disappointment as “real life” sets in. Since Vacillators can swing between “all good” and “all bad” their relationship is often stormy and extremely good or bad on any given day.

Jealousy is often a problem for this couple as both are easily threatened by potential loss. Either mate can vent and listening is rare. Anger is matched with anger and fighting can be intense and ugly. The children suffer during such interchanges and are rarely asked how the fighting made them feel. Neither likes to apologize, or give in, so stubborn standoffs can last a long time with fighting replaced by stony silence. Both have difficulty understanding their contribution to the problems. Rather, they blame the other for making them feel “bad” and “unhappy.” With no ownership problems continue.

The Vacillator goes through a pattern of protest, despair and detachment over and over when their idealized hopes and dreams don’t materialize. Over time, they may give up, detach and appear to be a disconnected Avoider when, in fact, they are a Vacillator who has given up hope.

If you are interested in the complete ACPT series, this CD is also included as part of the Core Patterns – Complete Series set.

This CD is also available as an audio download!

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Weight 1 lbs

This product includes the following downloads...

  • ACPT-Vacillator-Vacillator1.pdf