The core pattern is the enemy, not your spouse. As part of the Core Patterns series his CD explains the stages of growth in exiting the core pattern and helps a couple know where they are in the process of overcoming their core pattern. It contains a PDF Chart that overview’s these stages of growth.
Attachment Core Pattern Therapy™ is a framework for couples’ therapy that focuses on how the attachment styles of each spouse collide in marriage creating a problematic Core Pattern that blocks connection and hinders communication.
Attachment styles (“love styles” How We Love 2006) are the result of successful or unsuccessful bonding and attachment experiences in our family of origin. Positive experiences create a Secure Attachment and less successful experiences result in the wounded attachment styles of Avoider, Pleaser, Vacillator, Controller and Victim.
When two of these problematic love styles collide in adult romantic relationship couples are unwittingly re-creating a primary attachment relationship similar to their family of origin. Eventually, when the facades begin to disappear and conflict ensues, a core pattern of reactivity begins to form which becomes a repetitive fight or way of interacting that repeats over and over. These core patterns are unexplored, automatic, predictable and as so far as the couple goes, involuntary. Interventions are targeted at helping each person see their part of the destructive dance and using a comfort circle to create a new successful pattern of relating.
We prefer to see couples together (not individually) as these reactive patterns are best observed when couples are interacting and regulation is best learned within the primary attachment relationship.
Each CD in the ACPT series comes with a downloadable PDF, which includes a graph of the Core Pattern and all applicable interventions.
If you are interested in the complete series, this CD is also included as part of the Core Patterns – Complete Series set.
This CD is also available as an audio download!