What is Love? And Who is my Neighbor? (Part 3)

Our non obvious wounds (that Jesus tells us need to be loved by others), are skillfully hidden, so for the most part, we go unloved.

Love = showing our non obvious wounds (our true selves) to others and allowing them to care for us.

Yet, we hide our wounds…

we don’t want others to see them…

and we don’t want to see them either.

Where do our wounds come from?

They come from our two Families of Origin:

1.  Our first Mom and Dad… Adam and Eve:  Romans 5 “… by one man sin entered into the world” … the “fall” occurred, mankind was subjected to the curse, the creation was subjected to futility… all men sin.

2.  Our biological Mom and Dad:  We see many instances in the Scriptures of poor parenting, sinful patterns and beliefs being passed from generation to generation.  “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old, he won’t depart from it (Proverbs 22:6).”  It can happen in a positive direction or it can happen in the negative direction as well as parents’ damage and widen the gap between their child and God.

From these two sources all of our relationships were ruptured and cast into a state of disrepair… with God and others.

Jesus died to heal these two histories:  Again Romans 5:18 “So then as through the one transgression there resulted condemnation to all men; even so through one act of righteousness there resulted justification of life to all men.”

His death is historical in nature… that is, it repaired the historical rupture of our relationship with God caused by Adam’s sin and our own sin.

When we believe the Gospel and accept Christ’s shed blood as a substitution payment for our own sin, and see him as our Savior, the historical damage of Adam is repaired.

We conclude that God remembers our wounded histories… their not forgotten.

But what about the lingering emotional wounds from our biological family of origin as well as other relational hurts?  How are these wounds repaired?

More next week, thanks for listening,


Milan & Kay