The Healthy Jesus


Of the many things we here in our offices, seminars and New Life Radio callers, one of the most compelling challenges for the growing Christian is learning how to better manage parent sibling relationships. There is much to learn from The Lord’s human life as we study lifestyle and relationship principles from the Gospel according to Mark.

Mark 3:20-35

13.       And He came home, and the multitude gathered again, to such an extent that they could not even eat a meal. 

14.       And when His own people heard of this, they went out to take custody of Him, for they were saying, “He has lost His senses.”

15.       And the scribes who came down from Jerusalem were saying, “He is possessed by Beelzebul,” and “He casts out the demons by the ruler of the demons.”

16.       And He called them to Himself and began speaking to them in parables, “How can Satan cast out Satan?”

17.       “And if a kingdom is divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand.

18.       And if a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.

19.       And if Satan has risen up against himself and is divided, he cannot stand but the is finished!

20.       But no one can enter the strong man’s house and plunder his property unless he first binds the strong man and then he will plunder his house.

21.       “Truly I say to you, all sins shall be forgiven the sons of men, and whatever blasphemies they utter;

22.       but whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit never has forgiveness, but is guilty of eternal sin;” –

23.       because they were saying, “He has an unclean spirit.”

24.       And His mother and brothers arrived, and standing outside they sent word to Him, and called Him.

25.       And a multitude was sitting around Him, and they said to Him, “Behold, Your mother and your brothers are outside looking for you.”

26.       And answering them, He said, “Who are My mother and my brothers?’

27.       And looking about on those who were sitting around Him, He said, “Behold, My mother and my brothers!

28.       “For whoever does the will of God, he is My brother and sister and mother.”

PRINCIPLE:  Jesus exhibited adulthood separation from family.

  • He was not controlled by agenda of family of origins (“leave and cleave”).  Yet Jesus took time at the most critical point of His ministry (The Cross) to entrust His mother to John His disciple, even though He had other brothers and sisters.  He must not have fully trusted their provision for Mary.
  • As an adult, Jesus followed His divine sense of destiny and followed His Heavenly Father’s directions for His life, rather than listening to His family’s limiting wishes.


1.         In what ways do parents and siblings positively and adversely affect us and our families?

2.         What are healthy ways to resist their negative controlling intrusions?

3.         In balancing ministry and marriage, what checks and balances can keep both relationships vital and growing without ruining one or both?


For further information on this topic, go to our How We Love website at, and check out our previous newsletters, Volumes 35-39, Learning to Leave Your Parents (Parts 1-5).

Thank you for walking with us this past year.  We look forward to our continued journey with you in 2010.  Happy New Year.


Milan & Kay

Next Week:  Lessons in honesty.