Teaching Your Kids About Sex – Part 1

Teaching Your Kids About Sex – Part 1

Well enough about pain and loss for a while.

Let’s move on to a very important parenting topic that is near and dear to our hearts.

The next four weeks are titled, Teaching Your Kids About Sex.

It is a big topic and there is certainly a lot to be say, but I (Kay) will focus on some of the areas we see parents struggling.

Let me say at the onset that the Bible gives general advice to train a child in the way he or she should go.

It also gives us the goal of adult sexuality.

I Thessalonians 4:3 says, “This is the will of God, your sanctification.  That you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who so not know god; that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter because the Lord is an avenger in all these things.”

Part of sexual education is not just the facts.  It is teaching our kids to enjoy all of God’s gifts, yet master their all their appetites whether the desire is for food, sex, money etc.

Phrased another way, “All thing are lawful for me, but not all things are helpful….  l will not be enslaved by anything.”   I Corinthians 6:12.

Some of what I will share is my personal opinion and you are free to disagree or see things differently.  Above all, my goal is to get you thinking.

By the time our kids left home here are some of the things Milan and I desired to accomplish as far as sexual education with each of our four kids.

  1. To help our kids see all of God’s creation, and especially our amazing bodies as part of God’s design and gift to us.  We were designed to experience pleasure in our bodies and sexual feelings are a part of that design and gift.
  1. Like any gift, one can cherish and appreciate the gift or use it selfishly and out of the context for which God designed it.
  1. A good understanding of all the facts about sex for both male and female regardless of the sex of the child we are teaching.
  1. The ability to have open discussion about anything, especially during the teen years.  Some topics we have initiated are:  handing sexual feelings, wet dreams, purity, masturbation, sexually transmitted diseases, oral sex, pornography, sexual addiction and how it begins and progresses, the differences between males and females in sexual stimulation and responses, and expectations in different phases of marriage, to name a few.  As much as possible, we wanted each of the teens to have a mom (female) and dad (male) perspective of each of these topics.
  1. A great understanding of God’s principles and the benefits of heeding God’s instruction and the consequences of ignoring God.  This topic goes way beyond, “Don’t have sex before marriage because God said so.”  (More about this in future weeks).

Well, there is the overview.

Thanks & Love,

Milan and Kay

Next week: When and what do I tell my kids at different ages.