Giving the Gift of Gentleness
I’m going to start the New Year sharing a beautiful poem one of my dearest clients wrote for me.
She came from a very abusive background and had no experience of emotionally healthy bonding growing up.
It’s taken years of therapy for her to trust love and let it inside.
She is an amazing writer and captured the essence of love in these lines.
I’ll share one or two stanzas a week, as I think we have a lot to learn about love through her words.
I’ll be challenging you to examine your most important relationships in light of her words. At the end of the month, you’ll have a copy of the entire poem.
“You are gusts of gentleness
Cool, swift movements of grace.
Could someone say these words about you?
Would people describe you as gentle?
You can have a strong, gregarious personality and still be gentle.
Gentleness is most apparent in our words.
Proverbs 15:1 says a gentle answer turns away wrath. Gentleness is a fruit of the spirit. Eph 4:2 says our relationships should be characterized by humility and gentleness.
When do we most need gentleness?
When we are hurting.
When we are in pain.
When we have experienced harsh, insensitive encounters with others.
Are your words gentle with your spouse?
With your children?
Do you see opportunities to offer this gift or are you too busy to notice?
Gentleness and grace to together.
Gusts of gentleness, cool swift movements of grace. My wind. Gentleness cools a hot temper, sooths with soft kindness and helps us stand and move forward again when life knocks us down. Do you give cool, swift gusts of gentleness to help those around you regain their footing and move forward again?
Jesus is both strong and gentle. A gentle touch can communicate tenderness and care that extends beyond words. Do you avoid touching others when they are upset? Our advice is when you see a painful feeling, just say what you see…. and touch. “I can see how sad you are.” (Touch) “I can tell this feels very overwhelming.” (Touch) “I see how worried you are”. (Touch).
This week, ask the lord to give you opportunities for gentleness.
Milan & Kay
Next Week: Next stanza of my friend’s beautiful poem.